For millions of people, across age groups, video games provide a key way to kill time and decompress from the pressures and hardships of daily life. But what happens when it crosses a line, when escape becomes addiction?
Like any obsession, it carries a high cost. And as you may imagine, video game addiction has a substantial impact on a marriage. One study notes that this plays a role in an increasingly large number of divorces.
According to Divorce Online, men playing video games is cited as a cause in 15% of divorce cases.
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Video Games By the Numbers
Video games have become a major part of our daily routines. Recent findings from the Entertainment Software Association note that:
- 65% of U.S. households contain at least one regular gamer, while
- 67% of American homes own some type of gaming device. And this isn’t just young kids, especially not anymore.
- 72% of gamers are over 18 years old, and the average age is 35.
- 67% of parents play video games with their children on a weekly basis. And
- 61% of parents say these activities have a positive influence on the kids.
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When You Log On
Gaming can even serve as a social outlet. According to the ESA report, 53% of hardcore gamers say they play with other people online. It’s not uncommon for individuals to regularly play with the same online group, even though they may live far apart.
In many cases, this offers a healthy, constructive outlet. It’s when it crosses the line that it becomes an issue. In severe cases, video game addiction damages relationships and even leads to divorce. Spending every free moment in a deep-dive video game frequently creates friction between gamers and non-gamers who don’t share the same appreciation for this endeavor.
Three games often cited as problems are World of Warcraft, Call of Duty, and Halo. Games like these, and many others, create fully immersible worlds. You can log on, suit up, and forget your real-world cares for a while. Fighting orcs or heroically battling bad guys is likely much more exciting than what you do at work all day.
But too often, this momentary escape takes over and distracts from the real thing. Essentially, you start living in an alternate world that’s not your marriage. It’s easy to imagine how problems may arise in this situation.
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In some instances, this may be a reaction to things not going well in a marriage. Virtual social interaction can serve as a surrogate for face-to-face human connection. People choose this digital world as a way to put off dealing with an unpleasant reality.
But excessive video game play can also intensify already existing tensions. It may be symptomatic of larger problems you don’t want to confront. This can shine a focused light on specific issues or become an issue itself. Either way, it has the potential to cause major damage to your relationship and marriage.
It’s not only the in-depth online games that cause strife. Even less immersive titles, like the ones you play on Facebook or your smartphone, can have a negative influence. They appear deceptively casual and laid back, but often demand as much attention and focus as the others.
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Game Together, Stay Together
Excessive video game play leads to less time spent together, the disruption of routines, and can generally throw a monkey wrench into a marriage. At least that’s the case in marriages where only one spouse games. Or where spouses play different games.
While many couples have one spouse who puts more time and energy into their game than the marriage, that’s not every case. Some couples game together, with constructive results. A study from Brigham Young University found that “for couples in which both spouses play, 76 percent said that gaming has a positive effect on their marital relationship.”
Those who responded to the survey even noted online interaction lead to “higher marital satisfaction.” At least among those who game in tandem. Relating within a game often carries similar benefits as interacting in person. However, it can still cause problems when one spouse plays substantially more than the other.
So, if you absolutely must play a video game, consider involving your spouse. The research indicates that couples who game together have a higher likelihood of remaining together than those where only one participates.
This may provide some much needed common ground and lower your risk of divorce. If nothing else, consider how your video game obsession impacts the flesh-and-blood relationships around you.
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